I actually wrote this post last Thursday -- July 9th. My wife was undergoing surgery and I didn't have access to a computer -- I actually wrote it with pen and paper! I have been busy with hospital visits etc. until today. Here are some thoughts regarding an article from The Atlantic July/August issue of 2009. The article title was "Let's Call the Whole Thing Off", written by Sandra Tsing Loh.
Here is my post:
In this article, the author chronicles her infidelity and decision to divorce. She then discusses the marriage (and upcoming divorces) of her friends. She gives some good information re the divorce rate which is quite disturbing.
What disturbed me about the article was that she took her experience, adds in the stats of marriage/divorce and promotes a rationale against marriage. She touts her belief that human beings are not meant to be monogamous. I must admit that I also subscribed to some of these ideas when I was young and unmarried. My parents were divorced in the'50s and my grand parents divorced in the '20s. I also liked lots of girls. Marriage seemed like a lost cause.
Then I met Linda. I had actually known her for years , but she was just a kid. I "met" her when she was 18 and I was 23. We married when she was 22 and I had just turned 28. This month we celebrate our 44th anniversary. I loved her then and I love her more today!
God created us to be whole in marriage. God blesses and uses singles -- but for most of us we are not complete until we are married. A few thoughts that may be expanded upon in later posts:
- Love is a set of actions, not a set of feelings,
- Feelings are a result of love, they are not love itself,
- It is commitment to our vows that sustain our marriage,
- The author is correct in saying that our high divorce rate is exacerbated because of our tendency toward individuality and narcissism,
- The relationship of marriage is about giving, not receiving.
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